Why Do People Get Angry?

Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be. ~ Thomas à Kempis

What do you really want?
Far too often our vision is short sighted and our need for instant gratification so great that we don’t accomplish what we seek; so we get angry.Man Upset Anger’s many colors include frustration, a need to withdraw and self loathing. Regardless of how we express it, or whether it’s just or inappropriate, anger is a fleeting and ineffective antidote to feelings of powerlessness to get what we want. Its false promise of power is very seductive. We get angry in order to relieve the helplessness that we feel – and for a little while we may succeed – but in fact, anger forfeits power. We put whomever or whatever we’re angry with in the driver’s seat of our emotions and lives.

Know you can succeed.
Getting angry focuses attention on your feelings of powerlessness rather than on your goal. Attend to your real desire; obstacles are certain to arise, but the biggest hurdle is your own will to overcome them and to see your goal to fruition. How much do you really want to manifest your desire? Transform the energy of your anger and wield it as passion and determination. Be the person you were meant to be and nothing will be impossible for you!
David Cantu
Life Coach Austin Texas
Why Do We Get Angry? © 2007

Proverbs 16:32
(NASB)
He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty,
And he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city.

Create Your Life – Life Coaching

Life is not holding a good hand; life is playing a poor hand well. ~ Unknown Author

Many people understand
at an intellectual level that we’re each responsible for our own happiness. Yet we frequently blame others or attribute the sadness, anger and pain in our lives to outside circumstances.

Until we really get it that those two ideas are fundamentally contradictory it’s impossible for us to live a fully joyful and loving life; holding even the tiniest part of blame in our hearts renders us powerless to create what we ultimately want.

If I hold anyone or anything other than myself responsible for the feelings or facts of my life, I surrender my power to that person or thing. We don’t create everything that happens to us, but in order to find true peace in life we must take responsibility for all of it.

Otherwise, when we experience pain, failure or hardship, it’s much too easy for our egos to make excuses that keep us fearful and small. True responsibility says “I create every aspect of my life by my actions and reactions.” This is the narrow path of truth that leads to enlightenment.

David Cantu
Life Coach Austin
I Create My Life © 2006

Luke 6:37-38
(NIV)
“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you ….”