Life Coaching for Married Couples: How it Can Help

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When one hears the term “life coaching,” it can have a very different connotation than other forms of counseling. Especially that of marriage or relationship counseling, which is generally considered to be a deeper, more personal experience than that of a life coach. As well as focusing specifically on a couple’s communication with one another. But did you know that …

Marriage Counseling Austin: Being Clear about Sex

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In marriage counseling sessions, couples many times express sincere attempts to be tactful, to be “nice.” There’s nothing wrong with being kind, thoughtful, and considerate, we should all be. There’s also a time to be clear, to be firm with one’s partner in all of your interactions, yes, even when it comes to sex. Following is an edited conversation in …

Premarital Counseling Questions, Who Are You?

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Premarital counseling questions typically include ideas about spirituality, religion, finances, culture, blended families, compatibility and identity. One’s sense of identity directly affects that person’s ideas of compatibility. The reality is we’re unique and at our core we’re the same, we all want happiness, intimacy, and fulfillment in life. Premarital counseling questions surface many deeply ingrained and cherished beliefs about who …

Marriage and Family Counseling Austin

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Most client couples prefer to focus on their intimate relationship, but many still contact us for help for the entire family. We ask that children be at least in their teens, our focus with families is the parenting as well as the marriage relationship. We believe that a stable marriage creates a critical foundation for a strong family. Marriage and …

Couples Counseling Techniques

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Probably the most important couple counseling technique any counselor can use is empathy, the ability to sense and understand what each person is experiencing and feeling throughout the relationship. Without empathy a coach will be distant, the opposite of what is required to gain a person’s, or a couple’s, trust. With trust a couple will find themselves sharing both their …

How to Listen Effectively

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People tend to respond to what others say with their own thoughts. This is a natural part of the ebb and flow of conversation. However, it often means they aren’t listening. Even though we all “know” how to listen we often do a poor job of it. True listening takes effort and practice. How will you know you aren’t listening? To be a good …

What Does Chemistry in a Relationship Mean

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Chemistry in a relationship is like a performance; one is electrifying and another is boring. But no matter what, for love’s sake, you have to keep working at it to make it better. Chances are you’re reading this because you’re in a relationship lacking in chemistry and wondering whether to stay or go. Maybe the chemistry was once there, but you no …

What Makes a Good Relationship Work?

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1. Put your energy into giving, but do it thoughtfully. In his book, “The Five Love Languages,” Gary Chapman says, “People speak different love languages.” Forget for a moment how you want to be loved and figure out how your partner wants to be loved. 2. Ask yourself this important question: “Am I giving in order to get?” If you’re treating your partner …