How to Listen Effectively

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People tend to respond to what others saywith their own thoughts. This is a natural part of the ebb and flow of conversation. However, it often means they aren’t listening. Even though we all “know” how to listen we often do a poor job of it. True listening takes effort and practice. How will you know youaren’tlistening? To be agood …

What Makes a Good Relationship Work?

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1.Put your energy into giving, but do it thoughtfully. In his book, “The Five Love Languages,” Gary Chapman says, “People speak different love languages.” Forget for a moment how you want to be loved and figure out how your partner wants to be loved. 2.Ask yourself this important question: “Am I giving in order to get?”If you’re treating your partner …

Emotional Intelligence – Learn to Monitor Your Emotions

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Emotion is thought materialized in our physical being.Emotion is both the joy and the bane of our humanity. Life without it would be bleak and colorless, yet it defies and distorts our comprehension. This reminds me of the old saying, “Can’t live with them, and can’t live without them.” Knowing emotion is a fact of life doesn’t solve, for most …

The “Adventure of Life” is to Learn – Be the Hero

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The big question is whether you’re going to be able to say a hearty yes to your adventure…the adventure of the hero – the adventure of being alive. ~ Joseph Campbell Why is saying “no,” even to those we love best, so easy to do? Why is saying “yes” so difficult? The questions: “What about me, what about what I want?” appear to …

Change Yourself Change the World

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Two roads diverged in a wood, and I – I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. ~ Robert Frost Every now and then, someone writes a book, prophesies a future, or reveals a truth of nature with startling insight and pristine clarity – books such as “To Kill a Mockingbird,” the prophets Moses or …

Being Present in the Moment

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… striving to find meaning in one’s life is the primary motivational force in man. ~ Victor Frankl We all constantly deal with an abundance of information, both external and internal. We hear and feel the voices of purpose, anger, sorrow, motivation, greed, joy, fear, hunger, illness, health, intuition, sex – and these are intermingled with a second cacophony of …

Clarity Life Design: 6 Steps to Clarity

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Everyone sees the unseen in proportion to the clarity of his heart, and that depends upon how much he has polished it. ~ Rumi Be clear in speech. Clear speech and sincere listening are as essential to one another as giving is to receiving; without one the circuit is broken and what remains is potential rather than realization. Together they lead to …